2014년 12월 7일 일요일

Customers' saying is right unconditionally.

The coach must never be involved in the customer's consult content. It is one of really dangerous things.

Then, why must he not be involved in the coaching content? Because coaching is fundamentally different from mentoring or consulting. The role of coach is to draw the motive from the customers' inside. Also, it prevents the customer's story from going in a wrong direction intermittently.

So you don't need to intervene in the story while making an effort in motivation and arbitration. You don't need to compel your thinking about the content. No, you must not. It is coaching to lay out as it is and allow the customers to look at by themselves. Then you will be able to attract the customer's real answer.

Then, does the coach never give an advice? Of course, the coach sometimes plays a role of advisor. But the advice mentioned here is a little different from general advice. It is the advice by coach to let customers practice what they really want with courage and to agree, support, and encourage powerfully

Of course it is possible only when all the stories of customer are totally arranged and what he wants is revealed clearly. The coach should not materialize the customer's consult content like this or that before it is revealed. Especially, the coach should not confuse his inside with the customer's inside. The coach had better enhance the motive. Also he had better find the flaming blaze from the inside through the internal motive.

2014년 12월 4일 목요일

Do your best to only walk your way.

We commonly use an expression of 'right and wrong'. But it is just an useless expression. There will be a reason that a man says another that he was wrong. One of the representative reasons is to protect oneself. He doesn't say as the opponent was really wrong. He denies the opponent because he is afraid of being evaluated he was wrong. If he is evaluated to be wrong, he feels bad which is felt as the denial on his existence so he tells the opponent's fault first.

We cannot evaluate the right and wrong objectively. We can just express 'same, different', 'want to do, don't want to do'. Where is meaningless thing like a logic that 'I'm right and you're wrong'? Is it so important to argue I'm right? 

Some people may sympathize with this writing and some may not. Some people can say my writing is wrong. But I can accept anybody's saying because there will be nothing we can say wrong carelessly in this world. People in the world have so various viewpoints. Their lifestyles are different and they see the world differently with smile or sorrow. So we should remember 'right or wrong' and 'good and evil' exist only depending on what we want.

Take a close look at eyes of people who say 'you're wrong'. You may think of the followings through those eyes. 'I must catch this tightly', 'If I miss it, my hole may be revealed', and 'I'm too nervous I may be blamed'. 

Now we don't need to be self-conscious. We only have to do our best to walk our path only subjectively. But we should thoroughly assume the responsibility for what we chose. If we live in this way, we won't have the fear on the criticism. We can naturally throw away the attitude to criticize someone first.